Perfection Is My Enemy

A Chrisitan mom & crafter shares what's worked for her.

Valentine’s Day February 7, 2014

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I love all the fun Valentine’s Day ideas on Pinterest. But, I have three boys, and they aren’t so little anymore. I finally found an idea that works with pre-teen boys. We had a snow day today, and no place to go, so, we made these. So much fun, and I can’t wait for the kids to hand them out at school next week.




Seems like just the right mix of sweet and manly.


I Heart Faces Photo Contest ~ In The Distance June 3, 2013

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Here’s my entry for the I-Heart-Faces-button

photo contest. The theme is “In the Distance”. I just adore this new little family, and was overjoyed to be there to capture his first few hours on film.





I Heart Faces Contest ~ Play! May 7, 2013

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Here’s my boys playing in the fall leaves.



I have entered this photo in a contest at I-Heart-Faces-button


A Very Angry Birthday Party March 12, 2013

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Angry Birds Birthday

Angry Birds Birthday

My son is obsessed with Angry Birds, so it wasn’t hard to pick a theme for his 6th birthday party.

I like to start our parties with a craft that the kids can work on while we are waiting for everyone to arrive. I don’t think I’d ever do this craft again, but I guess it’s worth sharing. We had the kids paint empty cans to look like angry birds, then ran some string though them and made romper stompers. I think it would work great with bigger cans, but we used regular soup-sized cans, and they crumpled under the kids weight. We prepared the cans ahead of time by spray painting them green, yellow and red. I had craft paint and google eyes for the kids to decorate with.

Angry Birds romper stompers.

Angry Birds romper stompers.





Next we had cupcakes. I made cupcake toppers out of craft foam, glued them to popsicle sticks, and stuck them in the cupcakes. This was nice because I was able to have them (the toppers) done days before the party, which took a lot of stress away the day of the party.



But by far, the best part of the party was the life-size Angry Birds game. My husband tried to build a slingshot out of PVC pipe, but it did not go well. I bought balls at Walmart for a dollar each and used fabric paint to paint the faces on them. I took empty boxes of various size and covered them with white paper, and then painted them to look like wood, stone, glass, etc. Since the slingshot didn’t work out so well, the kids just threw the balls at the pigs. It worked out so much better that way because the kids had so much more control. They all had a blast with this game.

Life-size Angry Birds game.

Life-size Angry Birds game.

See, here they are having fun.







All Natural Red Food Dye August 6, 2012

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What do you do when your son is allergic to red food dye and red is his favorite color? Well, you spend a couple of weeks trying to make natureal food coloring out of various fruits and veggies. Here’s what finally worked for me.




Start with one can of beets (sliced or cubed).

Put in a sauce pan (you may need to add a little water, just enough to submerge the beets) and heat on medium heat for 20 minutes or so.

Don’t let it boil. The goal here is just to get the beets nice and soft.

Remove from heat and use a potato masher or fork and mash up the beets.

Put them back back on the heat for another 10 or 20 minutes. Again, don’t let them boil.

Remove from heat and strain (I used cheese cloth).

Toss the beets and put the liquid back in the sauce pan.

Turn heat up to a boil. Boil down until you get a thin syrup (I ended up with about 2 tablespoons of liquid).

DO NOT take your eyes off the pan.

Stir constantly or swirl liquid in the pan. It will cook down very quickly once it starts boiling and if you take your eyes off it, it will burn to your pan quickly.

I put mine in the fridge overnight, but you really just need to let it cool down to at least room temp before using.

Just add to any frosting to make the bright red color (use less if you want a bright pink color).

I used a marshmallow fondant. Looked and tasted great. You can’t taste the beets at all.


Good luck, and happy natural food dying.


Third Day Concert May 8, 2012

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I have been a Third Day  fan for almost as long as the band has existed. I love their style, I love what they sing about, and I love their commitment to God. If you’ve never heard them, you should click here and check them out. If you click on the little boombox in the upper right hand corner of the main page, you can listen to the concert we were at in Tualatin, OR on May 6th.

When we were choosing a name for our second son, we decided that we wanted to name him after someone who had influenced us. We narrowed it down to naming him after either Rich Mullins or Mac Powell (the lead singer of Third Day). Ultimately, we decided on Mac, but only because we thought it was a more contemporary sounding name.

This last Sunday, we took our son Mac to his first Third Day concert. It’s funny that of our three boys, he’s the only one that has any interest in music. I made him a t-shirt for the occasion.

I used a technique called freezer paper stenciling to make the shirt. If you’d like to learn more about the technique, just click on the picture and it will take you to a nice tutorial.

He loved the whole concert experience. He’s 8, so I wasn’t sure how he would do listening to music for 3 hours or staying up 4 hours past his bedtime. He loved it so much that he asked if we could go to their next concert in Spokane, WA. Sure son, that’s only 10 hour drive from our house. That shouldn’t be a problem.

One of the best things about the concert was when Third Day sang Creed, a song originally by Rich Mullins. How fitting that our son, who we considered naming after Mac Powell or Rich Mullins, would be at his very first concert, listing to Mac Powell sing a song by Rich Mullins.

At the end of the concert, the guys from the band walked along the stage and shook hands with fans. My husband went down there with Mac on his shoulders. Bass player Tai Anderson gave Mac his guitar pick.

Then, Mac Powell spotted our Mac’s shirt and said, “Hey, Little Mac.”

And then Mac Powell gave our Mac a handshake.

This is one classy group of guys. Our Mac was star struck, and is still smiling 2 days later. We have no regrets about naming our son after this man and are proud to have him as someone our son looks up to.


Top 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts May 4, 2012

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I did not write this article, but I hope that it helps my extoverted friends to better understand me.

By: Brian Kim – October 2, 2007

First off, there are those who are reading this who might not know which camp they fall into, the extrovert or the introvert. Chances are, the majority of those reading this will know, but for those who don’t, let’s define those two terms here very broadly.


Extroverts tend to be those who are more energized when around other people. They are the ones who will reach for the cell phone when alone for more than a minute, the ones who love to go out every weekend, the ones who love to chit chat, mingle, and socialize.


Introverts tend to be those who are more energized when alone with themselves. They are the ones who have to be dragged to parties, who are the first ones ready to leave after a short period of time, and who generally enjoy solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming.


The qualities and characteristics of introverts are often held in a negative light in today’s world, so it’s only natural that the majority of people seem to think that there’s something wrong with them. The reason why the majority of people think that there’s something wrong with introverts is because the majority of people aren’t very knowledgeable when it comes to introverts, in terms of why they are the way they are and why they do the things they do.


Many people tend to hold severalpotentially damaging misconceptions about introverts, but through no fault of their own.


I’ve been on both sides of the extrovert/introvert fence, and I can understand why extroverts tend to view introverts in a negative light, socially speaking, so I thought it would be best to write an article dedicated to helping extroverts understand their often very misunderstood introvert counterparts.


My hope is this article will help solve that problem by shedding some light as to why introverts are the way they are and do the things they do, so here are 5 things every extrovert should know about introverts.


1. If a person is introverted, it does NOT mean they are shy or anti-social.


This is probably THE biggest misconception that extroverts tend to have when it comes to introverts.


And you can’t really blame them for having that kind of misconception.


Extroverts tend to have to drag introverts to parties, to convince them to go and sell them on attending social engagements. When introverts politely decline, extroverts automatically assume that something might be wrong so they always ask if everything’s all right and of course, everything is all right. It’s just a common misunderstanding. When extroverts see a pattern like this developing, they automatically assume that introverts are shy or anti-social as that can be the only logical explanation to them. What’s more, when extroverts try to engage introverts in small talk, it seems like they hit a brick wall.


Add to that, most extroverts see that introverts tend to be fond of engaging in solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming.


Well, if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, it must be a duck right?




Introverts have more brain activity in their frontal lobes and when these areas are activated through solitary activity, introverts become energized through processes such as problem solving, introspection, and complex thinking.


Extroverts on the other hand tend to have more activity in the back of their brain, areas that deal with processing sensory information from the external world, so they tend to search for external stimuli in the form of interacting with other people and the outside world to energize them.


There’s a deeper science to this that involves differences in the levels of brain chemicals such as acetylcholine and dopamine in extroverts and introverts, but I won’t get into that.


The bottom line is that introverts are just wired differently than extroverts. There’s nothing “wrong” with them. They just become energized through different processes depending on where the majority of their brain activity takes place.


Granted there are introverts who may be shy and anti-social, but that’s just a coincidence that perpetuates the myth that ALL introverts are like that.


You’ll find that all introverts are fine just the way they are until people begin to subtly suggest otherwise.


2. Introverts tend to dislike small talk.


If you really want to engage an introvert in conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them. They love to debate, go past the superficial and poke around the depths in people’s minds to see what’s really going on in there. Most, if not all introverts tend to regard small talk as a waste of time, unless it’s with someone new they just met.


This characteristic probably contributes to another misconception that extroverts have of introverts – the misconception that all introverts are arrogant.




Because extroverts notice that introverts don’t talk that much with other people. Therefore, extroverts assume that introverts think they’re too good to talk to others, hence arrogant and that’s hardlythe case.


It’s just a matter of preference.


Extroverts thrive on small talk. Introverts abhor it.


There’s nothing wrong with either choice, it’s just a matter of preference.


This brings us to the third point.


3. Introverts do like to socialize – only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.


Yes, it’s true. Contrary to the majority of public opinion, introverts do like to socialize, but again, only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.


Introverts love anything that involves deep conversation. They get energized by discussing subjects that are important to them and they love see what and how other people think, to connect the dots, to dig deep, to find root causes, to use logical thinking via debate in conversation, etc.


And what’s more, introverts can do a lot of things extroverts are naturally good at – give great speeches, schmooze with everyone, be the life of the party, charm the socks off of total strangers – but only for a short period of time. After that, they need time for themselves which brings us to the fourth point.


4. Introverts need time alone to recharge.


Extroverts tend to think introverts have something against them as they constantly seem to refuse generous invites to social engagements. Introverts do appreciate the offers, but it’s just that they know it will take a lot of energy out of them if they pursue these social functions.


They need time alone like they need food and water. Give them their space. There’s nothing wrong with them. They’re not depressed and they’re not sad. They just need time alone to recharge their batteries.


5. Introverts are socially well adjusted.


Most introverts are well aware of all the social nuances, customs, and mannerisms when it comes to interacting with other people, but they simply don’t choose to socialize as much as extroverts, which makes it easy for extroverts to assume that introverts are not socially well adjusted, as they have not seen much evidence of them interacting with other people.


This just exacerbates previous misconceptions and gives way to labeling introverts as nerds, geeks, loners, etc.


It’s easy to understand why society tends to value extroverts over introverts. Human beings have lived in a tribal society so having to interact frequently with people came to be a regarded as a very good skill when it came to survival.


But because of this high value placed on extroversion, introverts tend to feel trapped and find themselves in a catch 22 situation.


Do introverts stay true to who they are and risk social alienation and isolation or do introverts conform and join the extroverted side, pretending to be somebody they’re not just to fit in?


This is preciselywhy I wrote this article, because if the extroverts can become more educated about introverts, introverts will be able to feel free to stay true to who they are, and that’s a good thing from society’s point of view.


Trying to “turn” an introverted person into an extroverted person is detrimental because it gives off a subtle suggestion that there is something wrong with them, hampering their self worth and esteem when there is absolutely nothing wrong in the first place.


There’s nothing wrong with introverts.


In fact, introverts are the leading pioneers of advancements in human civilization. Albert Einstein, Issac Newton, Charles Darwin are a few introverts that come to mind, just to name a few.


And for those of you not interested in science, but pop culture, you’ll be surprised to see a lot of well known names in Hollywood are introverts as well. Julia Roberts, Steven Spielberg, Christian Bale to name a few as well.


And for those interested in sports, Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods come to mind as athletes who are introverts as well.


Introverts have a lot to bring to the table. They have an amazing ability to discover new thoughts, an uncanny ability to focus, to concentrate, to connect the dots, to observe and note things that most people miss, to listen extremely well and are often found having a rich and vivid imagination too.


The more extroverts become knowledgeable about introverts, the less tension and misunderstanding there will be among the two.


So if you’re an introvert reading this, send a copy of this article to all your extrovert friends so they can get a better idea of what you’re all about.


It’s time to finally clear the air.